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June 20 2012

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west indian parents and probably south asian parents too

What’s worse is when they bring a whole tray full of plates when you just finished.

LOL Black American parents do this shit CONSTANTLY. 

Why hello there mother!

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♎ - ♓ - ♐: oh i hope everyone wants to make this one viral real quick. and please do let all the white supremacist/racist leap to...








Can I use the word “n***a” if I’m quoting a song? Specifically, the extremely common gesture of sharing lyrics on a blog or profile.

I imagine nobody would…

Im putting in my two sense here, FYI. Im not white im Argentine Italian okay? Second generation in the US. In front of my PoC friends I use the term “n***a” and you know what they do? Call me that right back or make a joke or laugh about it because its as much of a racial slur as whitey now a days. If your getting defensive over the -a ending then you might need to chill out. -er is  A COMPLETELY different story and I am not okay with anyone using that in front of me. But if the damn -a is in a SONG someones quoting why are you getting all offended like he just beat the shit out of you. That person was actually being polite and asking a question. People take things way too seriously in this world. Its all just fucking words. I get called faggot and dyke but that doesnt mean I get pissed off at the person who called me that. I get being upset about -er, however -a is something everybody called everybody in my high school and something my friends call me and I call them. 

You do understand that your “friends” don’t speak for EVERY SINGLE BLACK PERSON ON EARTH, correct?! Why the FUCK do you people want to use the word so god damn bad? You KNOW the history behind it, you KNOW it hurts people, you KNOW it’s used to dehumanize black people, and yet you’re DETERMINED to use it. What the entire fuck is wrong with you people? It doesn’t fucking matter if it has an “a” or an “er” at the end, IT’S STILL FUCKING WRONG AND YOU STILL SHOULDN’T BE USING IT. There is major controversy WITHIN THE BLACK COMMUNITY on whether black people should be using it. WHAT IN THE FUCK MAKES YOU THINK IT’S OK FOR ANYONE WHO ISN’T BLACK TO USE IT?!

In short, here’s what I think you should do:

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you are my sunshine

my only sunshine

you make me happy

when skies are grey

you’ll never know, dear

how much i love you







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Imagine you’re at a party. A guy offers you a drink. You say no. He says “Come on, one drink!” You say “no thanks.” Later, he brings you a soda. “I know you said you didn’t want a drink, but I was getting one for myself and you looked thirsty.” For you to refuse at this point makes you the asshole. He’s just being nice, right? Predators use the social contract and our own good hearts and fear of being rude against us. If you drink the drink, you’re teaching him that it just takes a little persistence on his part to overcome your “no.” If you say “Really, I appreciate it, but no thanks” and put the drink down and walk away from it, you’re the one who looks rude in that moment. But the fact is, you didn’t ask for the drink and you don’t want the drink and you don’t have to drink it just to make some guy feel validated.

The art of “no,” continued: Saying no when you’ve already said yes. « CaptainAwkward.com

I love this post SO MUCH. 

(via heavenearthandhoratio)

Gotta second that book recommendation for “The Gift of Fear” - I know the title sounds ick, but it’s really good.

I was just thinking about how I have dealt repeatedly with Creepers, guys who probably think of themselves as Nice Guys who have kind of followed me around being creepy. There was one in college who played in the symphony with me and would stare at me continuously - and our rehearsals were hours long, so this was really uncomfortable. And then he started showing up at my dorm. He would pretend (I later learned) to know someone else there but it was really an excuse to creep on me. He’d sit around just outside my door, or come to our parties and study groups - not doing anything against the rules, just showing up and staring at me.

The thing about Creepers is that they never give you a chance to say No, because they never ask. They’re just there. All the time. They never actually flirt or ask you out or hit on you, because you might tell them to go away. So now any change in the situation is on you, and if you just go up to them and tell them to buzz off, you’re The Bitch. He wasn’t doing anything! That was just rude! He never even hit on you or anything! And because we’re socialized to be polite, we probably won’t do this, and now this guy can creep to his heart’s content and imagine that one day you’ll give in and fall into his creepy arms.

And I guarantee you, when they see you with some other person (like the creeper who worked at my last job who passed me and my fella in the hall) and they get that downcast look like they’ve been personally rejected, they are going to their friends and moaning: why didn’t you like him, he’s such a Nice Guy, you must only like assholes, why are women such idiots? 

The thing about getting older is you don’t care if you’re The Bitch. Now I would just tell them to stop staring at me, you’re creeping me out. 

(via rubyvroom)

I think the biggest lesson I ever learned was that I have a damn right to be That Bitch when some guy is skeeving me out.

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So... maybe we/someone should create a group. "Black Tumblr Reunion" or something like that to see who's on soup. 

June 19 2012

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In they FAQ, it says posterous disabled importing in Feb. but they might bring it back.
How the heck do you friend/add/follow people? So lost...
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